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You file where YOU and the child live — not where the biological parent lives. If you live in another state but the biological parent is in New York, the adoption is filed in YOUR state, not New York.
However, if you and the child live in New York:
- You file in New York Family Court or Surrogate's Court
- The biological parent can be served anywhere — in New York or in another state
- The adoption follows New York law regardless of where the other parent lives
- 0 months residency required (N.Y. Dom. Rel. Law § 110)
If the biological parent lives in New York and you live elsewhere:
- You file in YOUR state's court
- The biological parent is served at their New York address
- New York's laws do not govern — your state's laws do
- Contact us and we'll prepare documents for your state
Cross-state service of process:
- A sheriff or process server in New York can serve the biological parent
- If the parent is cooperative, they can sign consent and have it notarized in New York
- If the parent's location in New York is unknown, service by publication may be used
Cost: $349 regardless of which state | Call (855) 924-0450 to discuss your multi-state situation.
Stepparent adoption in New York at a glance
- Court
- Family Court or Surrogate's Court
- Residency before filing
- No minimum period
- Typical timeline
- 3-6 months
- Court filing fee
- $200-$500
- Child must consent at age
- 14
- Home study
- May be required
- New York families we've helped
- 1,119
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