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Adoption doesn't erase the biological parent from existence — it changes the legal relationship. Here's what to know:
After adoption:
- The original birth certificate is sealed (not destroyed)
- Adoption records are typically confidential but not permanently inaccessible
- Many states now have mutual consent registries where adopted persons and biological parents can register willingness to connect
When the child is an adult:
- They can petition the court to unseal adoption records in most states
- DNA testing (like 23andMe or AncestryDNA) is increasingly common
- Many adoption reunion resources exist
Our advice to families:
- Be honest with the child about their history (age-appropriately)
- Adoption doesn't require pretending the biological parent doesn't exist
- Many adopted children have healthy curiosity that doesn't diminish their bond with the adoptive parent
- The legal relationship with you is permanent regardless
Important: Searching for a biological parent later does NOT undo the adoption. Your parental rights are permanent. The child will always be legally yours.
Call (855) 924-0450 if you want to discuss how to handle these conversations.
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