I live in Pennsylvania and the father hasnt seen my daughter in about 4 months. Is that long enough?

Yes, Pennsylvania has one of the shortest abandonment periods in the country — only 90 days (3 months).

So if the father hasn't had meaningful contact with your daughter for 4 months, that meets Pennsylvania's legal requirement for abandonment.

Just to clarify what "meaningful contact" means: If he's had a brief phone call or maybe saw her once during those 4 months, that's considered "token contact" and doesn't count. The court is looking at whether he's maintained a real parental relationship with her — not just occasional minimal contact.

This is actually very common. Most of the adoptions we help families complete in Pennsylvania (and everywhere else) are done without the other parent's consent, based on abandonment. The court is very familiar with this and wants your daughter to have the unity and security of a two-parent home.

The court will proceed with the adoption even if he doesn't consent, as long as you can show he hasn't maintained that parental relationship for at least 90 days.

Do you have other questions about the process, or about how the abandonment is documented?