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The same process applies regardless of whether it's the biological mother or father who refuses. Over 80% of our adoptions proceed without the other parent's consent.
If the biological mother has abandoned the child:
- No meaningful contact for 6+ months constitutes abandonment under N.J.S.A. § 9:3-46
- "Token contact" (an occasional call or text) does not negate abandonment
- Paying child support does not negate abandonment
- The Superior Court can terminate her rights based on abandonment
If the biological mother is present but refuses consent:
- This is a more complex situation
- The court evaluates her actual involvement with the child
- If she has been marginally involved, the case can still proceed
- If she is actively involved, this may require a contested hearing
The process:
- We prepare an abandonment affidavit documenting the mother's absence
- She is served with the adoption petition
- She has a set period to respond
- If she does not respond, the adoption proceeds
- If she responds and contests, a hearing is scheduled
In New Jersey, termination can be handled within the adoption proceeding.
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Stepparent adoption in New Jersey at a glance
- Court
- Superior Court
- Residency before filing
- No minimum period
- Typical timeline
- 3-6 months
- Court filing fee
- $200-$350
- Child's consent
- New Jersey does not require the child's consent; a child 10 or older attends the final hearing and the court considers the child's wishes
- Home study
- Usually waived for stepparents
- New Jersey families we've helped
- 1,204
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