Does my stepchild need to attend the adoption hearing in Virginia?

It depends on the child's age and the judge's preference in your Virginia counties/citie.

If the child is 14 or older:

• The child's consent is required (Va. Code § 63.2-1202)
• The judge will typically want to speak with the child at the hearing
• The child should attend unless the judge approves an alternative (like a signed consent form filed in advance)

If the child is under 14:

• The child's consent is NOT legally required
• Whether to bring the child is generally your choice
• Many families bring the child because it is a celebration
• Very young children (infants, toddlers) can come or stay home — either is fine
• Some judges love seeing the whole family; others are neutral

Our recommendation:

• Bring the child if possible — it makes the day special and memorable
• The hearing is warm and positive (15–30 minutes)
• Many judges take photos with the family
• Children of all ages often enjoy the experience
• If the child has school, ask for an excused absence — this is a significant family event

If the child absolutely cannot attend:

• For children 14+, a signed consent form filed in advance may suffice (check with your counties/citie clerk)
• For younger children, their absence is generally not an issue

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